SENSUAL MASSAGE: मे 2011

शुक्रवार, २७ मे, २०११

Sexual Orgasm

My first experience with going down was a clumsy experience that left my girlfriend frustrated and me a little embarrassed and not at all excited about repeating. But then I met my now wife who is wild about receiving oral and made it her mission to turn me into the best pussy eater she could. Now, granted some of my tips here are going to be kind of particular to her tastes, but I think you can have fun exploring with your lady and use some of this information as a springboard to developing this area of your sex life. So, here we go.

1. Pussy is very much an acquired taste. Think beer, coffee, wine, etc. The first time you tried any of these, you probably wondered how anyone could ever drink that crap. But, with experience you develop an appreciation for the taste. So it is with your lady's juices. If you have some concern about smell or taste, maybe plan to give your lady a bath or shower with her before.

2. Don't just dive in. Women aren't like us, ready for action at a moment's notice. My wife loves getting a massage. It relaxes her and she finds it very erotic to have me rub oil on her body. By the time I work my way down to her feet, she's ready to turn over and have my face between her thighs.

3. More than technique, women love enthusiasm. Don't go down half heartedly. Many women are very self conscious about receiving oral and anything less than your eager participation may totally kill the experience for her. So, get in to it. Afterwards, complement her on how she tasted, but no talking from you during the main event. This is about her and she really doesn't want to hear anything from you other than maybe a little moaning to emphasize how much you are enjoying this.

4. Be gentle at first. Again, especially the clit is very sensitive and more so when you first start. Kiss around her abdomen, her inner thighs, her mons, her lips. Suck her lips between your, er, lips very gently. When you sense her warming up, move on to working your way toward the clit. Tease her a bit by darting your tongue around the clit, but once you start licking the clit itself, don't stop and move off. You can use a circular motion, up and down, trace the alphabet with your tongue, it should be pretty evident to you what she likes the best. Once you find a rhythm she likes, stay with it as much as you can.

5. Most women like for you to use your hands. Sometimes my wife likes me to just get on my hands and knees and use tongue only, other times she prefers to have fingers inside. Hopefully your lady is comfortable enough to tell you what she wants and what feels good. But one thing I like to try is inserting two fingers with my palm facing up toward her clit. You'll feel a small "button" like structure in the anterior portion of her vagina. This is the G-spot and simultaneous stimulation of it along with tonguing the clit will send most women into orbit. I will often crook my fingers forward rhythmically (like signaling for someone to "come here") on either side of the G-spot and occasionally I'll stroke the spot with a circular motion using my middle finger.

6. Now, this sounds a little strange, but I'm so in tune with my wife during oral that I can actual feel in my genitals when she is about to climax. Weird, I know. As she gets very close, she starts to grind her pussy into my face. When this happens, let her take control. Keep with your rhythm, but let her take care of the pressure. She's going to apply the pressure she wants. Don't worry if you're having trouble getting a breath at this point, she's so close you can hold your breath until she finishes. If your fingers are inside, you'll obviously have a better idea when her orgasm starts. At this point, you can just continue what you're doing or start to suck her clit rhythmically between your lips.

7. As her orgasm subsides, she's getting very sensitive down there, but she doesn't exactly want you to disengage just yet. Greatly reduce the pressure and let her ride out the final contractions of her orgasm. Slow your rhythm until your open mouth is over her clit with your tongue simply resting on it and just stay there for a few minutes while she recovers. I like to finish by kissing all around her pussy for a few minutes.

Hopefully, this will help you get started. There are few women who don't cherish a man who loves to go down. Of course nothing makes you better like lots of practice.

FAQ

Female Ejaculation

Sensual Massage for Womans

1. Pussy is very much an acquired taste. Think beer, coffee, wine, etc. The first time you tried any of these, you probably wondered how anyone could ever drink that crap. But, with experience you develop an appreciation for the taste. So it is with your lady's juices. If you have some concern about smell or taste, maybe plan to give your lady a bath or shower with her before.

2. Don't just dive in. Women aren't like us, ready for action at a moment's notice. My wife loves getting a massage. It relaxes her and she finds it very erotic to have me rub oil on her body. By the time I work my way down to her feet, she's ready to turn over and have my face between her thighs.

3. More than technique, women love enthusiasm. Don't go down half heartedly. Many women are very self conscious about receiving oral and anything less than your eager participation may totally kill the experience for her. So, get in to it. Afterwards, complement her on how she tasted, but no talking from you during the main event. This is about her and she really doesn't want to hear anything from you other than maybe a little moaning to emphasize how much you are enjoying this.

4. Be gentle at first. Again, especially the clit is very sensitive and more so when you first start. Kiss around her abdomen, her inner thighs, her mons, her lips. Suck her lips between your, er, lips very gently. When you sense her warming up, move on to working your way toward the clit. Tease her a bit by darting your tongue around the clit, but once you start licking the clit itself, don't stop and move off. You can use a circular motion, up and down, trace the alphabet with your tongue, it should be pretty evident to you what she likes the best. Once you find a rhythm she likes, stay with it as much as you can.

5. Most women like for you to use your hands. Sometimes my wife likes me to just get on my hands and knees and use tongue only, other times she prefers to have fingers inside. Hopefully your lady is comfortable enough to tell you what she wants and what feels good. But one thing I like to try is inserting two fingers with my palm facing up toward her clit. You'll feel a small "button" like structure in the anterior portion of her vagina. This is the G-spot and simultaneous stimulation of it along with tonguing the clit will send most women into orbit. I will often crook my fingers forward rhythmically (like signaling for someone to "come here") on either side of the G-spot and occasionally I'll stroke the spot with a circular motion using my middle finger.

6. Now, this sounds a little strange, but I'm so in tune with my wife during oral that I can actual feel in my genitals when she is about to climax. Weird, I know. As she gets very close, she starts to grind her pussy into my face. When this happens, let her take control. Keep with your rhythm, but let her take care of the pressure. She's going to apply the pressure she wants. Don't worry if you're having trouble getting a breath at this point, she's so close you can hold your breath until she finishes. If your fingers are inside, you'll obviously have a better idea when her orgasm starts. At this point, you can just continue what you're doing or start to suck her clit rhythmically between your lips.

7. As her orgasm subsides, she's getting very sensitive down there, but she doesn't exactly want you to disengage just yet. Greatly reduce the pressure and let her ride out the final contractions of her orgasm. Slow your rhythm until your open mouth is over her clit with your tongue simply resting on it and just stay there for a few minutes while she recovers. I like to finish by kissing all around her pussy for a few minutes.

Hopefully, this will help you get started. There are few women who don't cherish a man who loves to go down. Of course nothing makes you better like lots of practice.

Yoni Massage

Literally meaning “sacred space or temple”. In Tantra, the vagina is the worshipped sacred part of the female body, which must be treated with care and respect. The Yoni massage is a sensuous form of bodywork that can build trust between the giver and receiver as well as connect the receiver to their inner sensual nature resulting in a feeling of complete well-being, satisfaction, and contentment.

Although the Yoni massage can be extremely stimulating, the purpose is not to bring the woman to orgasm. Rather, it is to relax the receiver and to bring emotions to the surface so that she is free to express her natural, powerful, orgasmic nature. The experiences and feelings that a woman may have during the Yoni massage can be very different, ranging from anger, lust, sadness, or even indifference. Everything is possible and everything is allowed. The Yoni massage is not about focusing on a special kind of feeling or fulfilling a particular expectation. The idea is simply to witness the receiver and to honor and respect her feminine nature as a divine Goddess.

Before beginning the massage, you should gaze into each other's eyes while embracing and engaging in deep, relaxed, synchronized breathing. By doing this, the giver and receiver connect on a deep level, creating openness and the ground on which the yoni massage will grow. Both the giver and receiver should remember to keep breathing deeply, slowly, and with relaxation during the entire process.

When you are both ready to begin the massage, the woman lies on her back with one pillow under her head and another under her hips to elevate her pelvis. She bends her knees and opens her legs to expose her Yoni. Sit comfortably between her legs with your legs crossed. You may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion.

Begin by massaging other parts of her body to encourage her to relax, start taking deeper breaths, and relax the muscles. Gently, but firmly, massage her legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the Yoni. Next, massage the pubic bone area and then move down to the inner thigh area. With the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of Tantra), apply a high-quality oil or lubricant to the mound of the Yoni, pouring just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni.

Gently rub the oil on the outer lips of the Yoni. With the thumb and index finger, gently squeeze each lip, sliding the fingers up and down the entire length of each lip. Then, carefully repeat this process with each inner lip of the vagina varying the pressure and speed of touch based on what feels right.

Next, gently stroke the clitoris in a circular motion, clockwise and counter-clockwise. Then, squeeze the clitoris between the thumb and index finger. Next, slowly and with great care, insert your middle finger into her Yoni. Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with your finger. Varying the speed and depth of your finger, feel inside the Yoni up, down and around. With your palm pointing upward and your finger inside your partner's Yoni, bend your finger to make contact with her G-spot, known as the "sacred spot" in Tantra.

Continue the massage, trying different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and gazing into each other's eyes. You may have powerful emotions come up and feel like crying, or burst out laughing. This is simply blocked energy being freed and is very healing. Just keep breathing as the massage continues. If orgasm occurs, continue breathing. Don’t hold back, yell, scream, release the energy and emotions. This is your safe healing time. And remember that breathing is very important to continually move the energy throughout the body. This also enhances the healing aspect of the yoni massage. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave." Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni massage and a patient, caring partner.

Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and mindfully, remove your hands. The Yoni massage creates a space for a woman to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Allow her to just lie there, perhaps covering her with a blanket making a warm cocoon around her body, and letting her to enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. This is a profound time of great peace as you experience the joy of being a witness to this special moment.

Lingam Massage

In Tantra, the penis is called the Lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as "Wand of Light." A Lingam massage is a massage of the male genitals using a large variety of strokes and grips. The goals of the Lingam massage are to honor your man's Lingam and to help him to expand his ability to receive pleasure.

The setting and your attitude are what make a Lingam massage a special experience for your man. Prepare a quiet, preferably dim, space with a bed, a futon mattress, or a blanket and pillows on the floor. The temperature in the room should be a little warmer than normal because you will both be nude. Lighting candles or an oil lamp in the room will keep the lighting subdued and also help generate heat. Your oills and lubricants should be within easy reach. Try to get spill-proof bottles and use plastic rather than glass. Make sure that you have a couple of hours where you won't be disturbed.

Begin by breathing together. Stand or sit face-to-face. Embrace or hold hands, look into each other's eyes, and breathe deeply into the belly. Continue looking into his eyes and breathing with him. If you find he is holding his breath, place your hand on his lower belly and remind him to breathe from that place, to "fill his belly" with his breath.

Next, have him lie face down and begin giving him a full body massage. After about 10 minutes, ask him to turn over, and then continue the massage. Advance the massage slowly toward the inner thighs and pelvis until he is breathing deeply from his belly and his body is fully relaxed.

Then, as a show of respect for his male power, ask permission to touch his Lingam. Simply ask, "May I touch your Lingam?" or, if he is more familiar with Tantric terms, "May I touch your Wand of Light?" If he gives you permission, pour a small quantity of massage oil or water-based lubricant on his Lingam and testicles. Rub the oil or lubricant into his skin, beginning at the top of the inner thighs and moving into the crease where his legs meet the pelvis floor. Using slow, steady motions. work along the connecting bone and muscles, releasing tension as you go.

Next, massage above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Rock your hand over this place, feeling the bone beneath the muscle and skin. Then, move on to the scrotum, gently pulling and kneading his testicles. You will need to pay very close attention to his responses here and encourage him to tell you what is just right for him. Some men can't stand to have their testicles touched at all, while others enjoy stronger handling. Start gently and slowly add pressure, rather than the other way around.

From his testicles, move your hand down to massage his perineum, sometimes called the "sacred spot." Locate the small indentation, about the size of a dime, halfway between the testicles and anus. You can use downward strokes from his Lingam to his anus or a circular motion. Circle and pull at the tissues and gently push inward on the spot with your finger. Since the spot may feel painful at first, only increase pressure as much as he is comfortable with.

Finally, place your hand on his Lingam. As you massage the shaft, gently squeeze his Lingam at the base with your right hand, and pull up, sliding completely off. Then do the same with your left hand—squeeze his Lingam at the base, and pull up, sliding completely off. Then do this again with your right, then your left, and so on. After a while, change directions—slide alternating hands from the top down to the base. Then, take the Lingam between both hands and rub your hands quickly back and forth, as you wanted to start a fire. Hold his Lingam by the head and gently shake it back and forth. Thoroughly massage the head by cupping it in your palm and turning your wrist, making "juicing" motion (as if you are juicing a lemon). Move from the Lingam to the testicles to the perineum and back again, noting his responses.

If, at any point, your man seems close to ejaculation, slow your movements to reduce stimulation and let him cool down before beginning again. If he is very close, but not past the "point of no return," you may be able to delay his ejaculation by squeezing the tip of his Lingam between your thumb and forefinger. Squeeze very firmly and hold it for about thirty seconds. Encourage him to take deep breaths while you do this. Moving to the sacred spot is another way to delay ejaculation. If he starts to feel close, decrease stimulation on the Lingam and increase stimulation on the sacred spot, which should help decrease the pressure to ejaculate.

If you hold back his orgasm six times, a tremendous amount of sexual energy will be stored, which he can either retain and circulate throughout other parts of his body or release. If he chooses to ejaculate, his orgasm will probably be much more intense than usual. Keep reminding him to take deep breaths even as he ejaculates. When the massage is complete, slowly remove your hands and allow him time to relax and savor the pleasure he has just received.

When personal Tantra instruction is either inconvenient or too expensive, Al Link and Pala Copeland's two excellent self-teaching courses. I highly recommend either of these courses for those who can't find a local Tantra teacher, attend a Tantra workshop, or just want to explore Tantra in the privacy of their own home.

Couple Massage

Couples massage has several definitions. It can be massage performed on two people by two massage therapists, simultaneously and in the same room. The two people don’t have to share a romantic connection. Alternately, this can refer to massage for couples performed on each other, which may or may not have a romantic or erotic component.

The first type of massage is growing in popularity, and if both members of a couple enjoy massages, they may wish to share this experience of relaxation. There are numerous spas or massage therapy practitioners that offer couples massage. As mentioned, the couple doesn’t have to be a romantic couple. It could instead be best friends, siblings, or any two people who feel comfortable enough being relatively undressed in front of each other. It is possible for a more modest massage by wearing undergarments or bathing suits.

Couples massage of this type can be of varying massage disciplines and it could have other features that are attractive, such as seaweedwraps, hot stone treatments, or time in a whirlpool. Occasionally, other services like facials, pedicures or manicures are offered too. For this type of massage to work best, it really needs to involve two massage therapists so that each member of the couple gets equal and consistent attention. This means this form of therapy is generally about twice as expensive as a regular massage, and price may go up with the purchase of extra spa services.

While many people enjoy couples massage, a few people don’t. The reason is that massage and relaxation can be very personal, and some people don’t feel they adequately relax around others. While this form of massage can certainly be worth trying, it’s also okay to pursue massage services separately, if it feels more comfortable.

The alternate form of couples massage is the massages couples give each other, and there are many ways to learn techniques of this type. A number of video or DVD programs exist that can help couples learn how and where to massage or alternately, massage practices could be taught at workshops. There are usually two distinct types of couples massage, and many subtypes.

One type focuses most on learning the techniques of massage therapists to aid a partner in relaxing. The other may be more focused on the sensual, erotic or tantric touch, where massage might be precursor to sexual engagement. People can find videos or in person instruction for either kind; any form of erotic massage instruction is likely to be extremely frank. There are also books or websites on both if people prefer to read about this subject.

With standard couples massage from masseuses, couples also have a chance to learn how to work with their partners. They can observe, to an extent, those practices which are most pleasurable or relaxing to partners. People can question masseuses about the types of moves they use to find out what benefits they have. This information can later be used at home to give each partner massages in between spa or masseuse appointments.

Thai Massage

What is Thai massage?

Thai massage is believed to have been developed by Jivaka Kumar Bhaccha, physician to Buddha, more than 2,500 years ago in India.

It made its way to Thailand, where the Ayurvedic techniques and principles gradually became influenced by traditional Chinese medicine.

For centuries, Thai massage was performed by monks as one component of Thai medicine.

What does Thai massage feel like?

Thai massage is more energizing and rigorous than more classic forms of massage.

Thai massage is also called Thai yoga massage, because the therapist uses his or her hands, knees, legs, and feet to move you into a series of yoga-like stretches. Many people say Thai massage is like doing yoga without any work.

Muscle compression, joint mobilization, and acupressure are also used during treatment.

People describe Thai massage as both relaxing and energizing.

What should I expect during my visit?

Thai massage is usually done on a padded mat on the floor.

No oil is applied, so you are fully dressed. You are usually asked to bring or wear comfortable clothing to the massage.

A typical Thai massage is 60 minutes to two hours long.

What conditions is Thai massage used for?

Many people find that Thai massage has the following benefits:

relaxes
reduces stress
improves circulation
increases energy
increases flexibility
improves range of motion
centers the mind and body

Precautions

Massage is not recommended for certain people:

infectious skin disease, rash, or open wounds
immediately after surgery
immediately after chemotherapy or radiation, unless recommended by your doctor
prone to blood clots. There is a risk of blood clots being dislodged. If you have heart disease, check with your doctor before having a massage
pregnant women should check with their doctor first if they are considering getting a massage. Massage in pregnant women should be done by massage therapists who are certified in pregnancy massage.
massage should not be done directly over bruises, inflamed skin, unhealed wounds, tumors, abdominal hernia, or areas of recent fractures.

Additional tips

Don’t eat a heavy meal before the massage
If it's your first time at the clinic or spa, arrive at least 10 minutes early to complete the necessary forms. Otherwise, arrive 5 minutes early so you can have a few minutes to rest and relax before starting the massage.
Be sure that your massage therapist has your complete health history, because people with certain conditions should not have Thai massage.
If you feel discomfort at any time, let your massage therapist know.

Touch Massage

The combination of scent and touch is extremely effective in opening up intimacy between two people. That's basically how we communicate love in an effective way, a way that doesn't involve having to discuss the subject a great deal. It also works wonderfully on a basic physical level. There are a lot of nerve endings that follow along the path of the spine. As you massage, your touch brings the blood to the surface, you speed the absorption of the oils into the skin, and you also bring up the level of oxytocin, the hormone needed in high levels for the process of sexual arousal.

Massage is an especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them o feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. The nurturing, caring-for aspect of romance is extremely important between two people. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you're involved on all levels with each other. And touch and scent are the best ways of really opening some of those deeper levels.

A backrub is something that everyone can relate to positively and that's a good place to start. Using oils will make it quite a different, and far more exciting, experience.

Begin the massage with a small amount of your chosen aromatherapy oil, just a teaspoon or so. Rub the oil in the palms of your hands to warm it up before it touches your partner's skin. Cold oil poured on a back will quickly produce about twice as much tension as was there before you started!

There are certain basic message techniques designed to relieve tension, that are very effective. Tension tends to accumulate in the neck, shoulders and upper back in women, and in the lower back and buttocks in men. The really important thing is not how you do the massage. The idea is not to become an expert masseuse or masseur. This is a seduction ritual! Be creative and playful.

The Welcoming Press: With your lover lying face down, straddle him or her or kneel at their side. Gently press down on your partner's shoulders, and on either side of the spine. Do not press directly on the spin at any time during the massage. This stroke gives your partner a few moments to get used to the feeling of your hands on their skin.

The Back Warmer: Now begin to warm your lover's back. With a flat hand, fingers together, palm in contact with the skin, move the hands in parallel lines up either side of the spine, then out and across the shoulders, and down the sides of the torso.

Kneading: Working as deeply as is comfortable for your partner, use your fingers to knead the muscles of the back, starting with the neck and shoulders and working your way down. Go slowly and use additional oil as necessary.

Raking: Spread your fingers and, keeping them somewhat stiff, rake them down the back from shoulders to buttocks. This releases deep, underlying tissue tensions.

Lower Back: The lower back and sacrum (the downward-pointing triangle located between the buttocks at the end of the spine) can become congested and tender, especially in premenstrual women. Lightly massage this area with small, circular strokes on buttocks, hips and upper thighs. With a man, use lower back spirals. Starting at the top of the crack between the buttocks use your thumbs to make small spirals upwards along either side of the tailbone to the top of the sacrum, then press your thumbs along the top of the hips and move them out, across and down the side of the body to the floor. Repeat several times.

Buttocks: Try "Thumbs over the Mountain." Starting at the bottom, press your thumbs firmly into the flesh of the buttocks and follow the curve up, around, and down the side of the hips. This can be a tender and sensitive area, so use only as much pressure as your lover can comfortably tolerate. Return to the first position and move your thumbs apart slightly to describe a second curved line that is parallel to and outside the first, continuing until you have no curve left to follow. Repeat several times.

Thighs: Once you get to your lover's thighs, you may find yourself getting distracted and decide to shift your focus to other kinds of touching. Or you may want to try out some massage strokes of your own design. Or you can ask your partner to turn over and continue the massage with a few more strokes to the front of the body.

Shoulder and Chest Presses: Kneeling behind your partner, as he or she is lying face up, press down on the shoulders and hold. Ask your partner to take a deep, releasing breath, and let the essential oils work their magic as you increase the pressure of your hands slightly. At the end of the exhalation, release. Slide your hands up and over your lover's collar bone and press very gently. Have them take a deep breath as you hold, then release. Now move your hands to the center of the chest, (between a woman's breasts) and, laying one hand on top of the other, press very gently. Have your partner take a deep breath and release.

Sexual Energy Release Points, Neck and Ears: Encourage your lover to breathe in a deep and relaxing manner as you gently massage their neck, making small circles over the release points on the upper neck and about halfway up the ears. If the massage is a prelude to lovemaking, now is a really good time to let the kissing begin. Remember, too, that a woman's breasts are highly charged with erotic energy and can create a dramatic arousal response when massaged or caressed.

Improvise! Well, you're on your own from here. Relax, improvise and be creative, you'll do just fine!

What is Sensual Massage?

Sensual massage is a form of massage which is designed to increase intimacy between people in a relationship. This intimate massage is usually performed in the environment of the home by people who are in a relationship with each other. Unfortunately, “sensual massage” is sometimes used as a code word for sexual services and this concept is sometimes misinterpreted as a result; in point of fact, whether performed at home or in a spa, massage is not intended to be sexual in nature.

In a sensual massage, the goal is to developer deeper emotional connections with a partner. After a sensual massage, both partners should feel closer and more comfortable with each other. The massage techniques used can vary; partners can develop their own massage moves, integrate techniques from various massage traditions, and even take couples massage classes which are taught by professional massagetherapists who provide people with tools which can be used in sensual massage.

Sensual massage is designed to be relaxing. At the end of the massage, both partners should feel calmer and more at ease. While the partners may trade massages with each other, the massages are usually performed at different times so that someone who has just received a massage does not have to emerge from a highly relaxed state into the more focused state of massage giver.

Touch in general tends to encourage deeper emotional connections as well as making people feel more relaxed. In sensual massage, there is a focus on maintaining constant physical contact throughout the massage and on massaging the whole body. People can use aids such asmassage oil or cream, although these are not necessarily required, and sensual massage can also be performed fully clothed if partners feel more comfortable that way. Massage tools such as exfoliating gloves or aids to assist with deeper massage work can also be incorporated into a sensual massage.

People can also focus on specific areas of the body with massage. For example, some couples may enjoy giving foot massages at the end of the day to relieve stress. Likewise, partners may massage each other's necks or backs to address tension, reserving full body massage for special occasions.

Every couple may have its own approach to massage. There are not any methods which are necessarily wrong or right or any prescribed length for a sensual massage. However, people should be careful to avoid injuring each other. If a massage is painful, the pressure should be reduced, and people who have not had formal training should avoid deep muscle work because they can inadvertently cause injury.